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6 Things To Never Say To Your Kid

2020-05-28

We know that your kids are your world. You want them to be a perfectionist but during this process, there are some things that you say to you kids which become toxic for his/her ears. But how do you know if you are toxic towards your kid?

Here are a few toxic things that parents should avoid saying to their children -

 

YOU LOOK UGLY

Although there is nothing wrong with teaching your child how to present their own self, things can surely go wrong when you tell them that they do not look good. When you comment on a child's pimpled face or their slightly obese body, you might badly affect their self-esteem. This can further escalate to the point where the child gets so insecure that he/she develops eating disorders and/or depression.

 

YOU ARE BEING TOO SENSITIVE

When our kids cry, we often tell them that they are being too sensitive. It is generally perceived as the right way to make your child stronger and prepared for the world outside. However, this makes the child think that the actual problem is not the real deal here, rather there is something wrong with them. This leads to them running away from problems and avoiding them or they think that others are least bothered by the way that they feel.

 

YOUR GRADES DEFINE YOU

It is completely alright to worry about your kid's academic performance, and it is, in fact, better to pay serious attention to their academics. But things take an ugly turn when you constantly make your kids feel that their grades are the only thing that truly defines them. At other times, when parents say that Bs are good but As are better, it leaves the child feeling unloved and unappreciated for their achievements and obstructs them from making bigger efforts.

 

YOU ARE SO LAZY

Children aren't lazy without any significant cause. Either they have learned this mode of behaviour through observation, or they have an underlying condition forcing them to be lazy. Constantly reminding your child that they are lazy can make them question their self-worth. The best way to tackle this situation is to make your child do physical activities in a fun manner or rewarding them when they accomplish a particular task.

 

WHY DO I NEED TO TELL IT TO YOU OVER AND OVER AGAIN?

Often we get furious when our little one asks the same thing over and over again? It might get irritating for us as adults but shouting at your child just because he asked the same thing twice is not going to make it easier for him. At such times, changing your communication strategy can be the best. Instead of demanding a yes/no answer, try asking your child more open-ended answers and thus reach the root of the problem.

 

BIG BOYS/GIRLS DON'T CRY

They do. When you tell your child that they cannot cry because they are old enough to face the situation, you make them feel as if you don't empathize with them, and that they are not being heard.

 

Being sensitive to the needs of your kids is necessary. Surely your worry about them and want them to be their best versions, but these are the certain things that any kid should never hear.

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