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Why and How to Teach Your Kids the Importance of Patience

2019-10-16

If there is something that everyone needs in their life to be happy, it’s the patience. No matter what you do and how you do, there will always be a time in life when you will need patience.

Patience doesn’t mean that you laid back and let things happen at their own pace, patience is to hold your nerve when putting your effort without getting tensed about the results.

While some people are more patient than others, this is an art that can be mastered with practice and during the practice you will need to have something called Patience.

Different people react differently when put in the same situation and this is because they have been taught to react or rather they have learned to react differently throughout their life.

So, it is better to teach patience to the kids at an early age so that they grow to become an adult who can handle stress with patience.

The importance of patience

Patience is important in every walk of life, whether its academics, sports, relationship or work, you will need the patience to do well in anything. Even in a simple thing as cooking, you need the patience to cook the dish to the right amount. We are in control of about 89% of the time of the events that happen in our life and unexpected events happen. It is these times that we need to handle the situation with patience. There will be times in life when things will not go as planned as you will have to have faith in yourself and the patience to believe that things will be back to normal.

On the other hand, impatience can ruin your life. Yes, it can ruin your relationship, your happiness, your peace of mind and to some extent your chances of getting success. Impatience is the result of your overestimated self-confidence. Self-righteousness and a sense of entitlement lead to impatience. People tend to become impatience when they are not able to do anything, and this impatience prevent them from further correcting the situation.

6 ways to teach your kids to be patience

The best way to learn patience is to practice patience isn’t that sound so easy to be done, but no, it is easier said than done. Trying to be patience actually makes the person more impatient and sometimes it even backfires. This happens because it takes time for a person to be patience in any situation and it comes after reacting in several in situation and then analyzing its results. The thing here is that if the kids are taught to be patience from an early age, the difficulty in teaching them to be patient is any situation is less.

So, here are the five ways that can be used to teach the kids to be patient.

Practice and model patience

Every day we face situations when we need to have patience and show our kids how to handle a stressful situation with patience. It can be anything like getting your kids ready for the schools in the morning while getting ready for your office at the same time, getting stuck in the traffic when you are late for an appointment with a doctor or something else. Do not lose patience in these types of situation and your kids will learn the same.

Teach Delayed Gratification

It can be as little as one or two minutes in the beginning and the waiting time can increase slowly. What you will have to do is to find opportunities in daily life and make your kids wait for something that they want or are looking for. In this way, they will learn to wait for something that they want and will be less impatience.

Use of Reflective Listening

Kids do not like to wait for anything and especially at times when they will be playing. You kids will react verbally when they will feel like this and it is these times when you need to listen to the kids and react patiently. Listen to them and tell them why it is important to wait for something in the situation demands. However, they do not understand the logic, they surely understand emotion.

Stick to Your Timing

We all have a habit of saying “just one minute” or “within two minutes,” while most of the time, this is not true. Avoid saying these things when you are not going to actually do the thing in a minute or two. If something is going to take more time, then tell your kids that it will take half an hour. In case you are not sure about the timing, then don’t say anything exactly, like when waiting for food, don’t tell them that it will be ready in 15 minutes, tell them they will have to wait till the potatoes are cooked.

Enjoy Slow Activities

There are many activities for the kids that need patience. While there will be fun, they will also learn to have patience at the same time. Engage in projects and activities that require time and patience, such as planting, mosaics (with paper), and pottery, and slower-moving games like Yahtzee Jr., Chutes & Ladders, and checkers. Planting can be well as it also requires nurture along with patience.

Acknowledge Patience

One way to teach your kids the importance of patience is to acknowledge if they show patience instead of crying and reacting in any other way. For example, if you are stuck at something and your kid is busy with his colorful note instead of getting irritated, tell them you appreciate their effort and reward them. This will encourage them to be more patience in any situation in the future.

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